Beyond Beauty - Liberty or Limits?

Beyond Beauty – Liberty or Limits?

Sean Mitchell

Sean Mitchell
Advisor, Operations & Branding

With it being 2017, you’d think a person’s race or ethnicity wouldn’t be a factor in (American) society. Turns out it still does, and it’s not going away any time soon.

In this day and age it’s still surprising to see people make such a huge fuss about race and skin colour. I’m particularly taken aback by the present environment unveiling before our eyes in the United States. In a land that’s supposed to preach liberty and acceptance and be welcoming as it claims to be it still boggles the mind that there’s as much…ineptitude for a large portion of the population to accept the nationalities of others outside of their alleged “grass roots” American family trees.

Perhaps it’s the fact that I’m in Canada and the multitude of nationalities that make up the Canadian social fabric have become so commonplace here that it’s generally accepted without so much of a fuss. (Granted, in the more “concentrated” areas of the country where immigration of certain ethnicity doesn’t tend to extend as much as it does in urban areas, there’s still a bit of resistance to accept them in that respective society.)

What am I alluding to in particular? This past Tuesday was the 4th of July, or Independence Day in the United States. It’s a huge national celebration that fetes all things American and an ideal chance to pat each other on the back of their accomplishments and a giant group hug that would make Barney and Friends vomit from all the cushiness. But there’s a particular theme that caught my attention that really made me think about how things are down there and how much more work there is to become as open as it claims to be.

During the Macy’s 4th of July festivities in Manhattan with footage across the country there were pieces of commentary of people—largely immigrants—who appreciated the opportunity to become American and enjoy its freedom that is often not bestowed upon citizens in other countries. The amount of liberty they feel just being on American soil is astounding; it felt like a genuine appreciation that I personally think many homegrown Americans tend to take for granted. A lot of these immigrants are productive, peaceful and patriotic members of society, a lot more than those who tend to think just because they were born in America with several generations of roots to prop them up they deserve the right to be critical of people who have fought most of their lives to escape tyranny to come to America regardless of circumstances.

While it was all fine and dandy to hear those positive testimonies from appreciative people from a plethora of ethnicities with heart-wrenching circumstantial stories, I couldn’t help but think that there’s still a level of racial ignorance in the U.S. that I cannot comprehend. It doesn’t just include that but those who have decided to seek their true selves whether it be through gender realization or emancipation from unjust societal norms so hell-bent on religious interpretation that has largely become outdated. You’d think that with it being 2017 that a person’s ethnicity, race or gender preference would not be such a grandiose issue but apparently it still is.

Today I was on MSN browsing entertainment articles and I stumbled across this unique article. The article, found here, talked about the recent reboot of Hawaii Five-O experiencing the departure of two Asian actors, with each decrying racial hierarchy. Before people automatically classify this as racism (the network allegedly offered the actors “substantial raises” but were turned down for whatever reason), it paints a picture of non-Caucasian individuals struggling to be woven into existing popular culture when there really shouldn’t have be a struggle.

In most cases, Democrats are the ones who champion liberty among all individuals however there’s been some Republicans who have chimed in a more progressive tone. Although to some that means freedom of religion, and the right to discriminate. That aside, does human dignity need to fall beneath the tendrils of freedom of religion? If you ask me, it doesn’t. A lot of people share that same sentiment as I do. Again, it depends on which side of the political spectrum you fall under.

Perhaps I’m biased; growing up in Canada, as mentioned before, having people of different colour, ethnic backgrounds or religions being included in everyday life is something that’s not really questioned here. I think it’s because here we’ve acknowledged that Canada is essentially a country of immigrants and everyone contributes in a unique way to the fulfillment of our own societal values. Granted, we are 91 years younger than America but our foundation was leagues different from those of the United States so it’s hard to make a legitimate comparison. And to be fair, I’m not American and do not live there, so I cannot make an accurate statement on how society is there, but I can make observations, particularly since the events that take place in America affect the world in multiple ways so it is, therefore, valid.

Moving on.

In Toronto, it’s perfectly common to see people of different ethnic backgrounds interact with one another. Take a ride on the TTC (Toronto’s transit operating body) and you’ll find people of all sorts of colours, creeds and lifestyle preferences sharing a ride or sipping a cup of Tim Horton’s (or whatever brand you prefer) together. It’s normal here. Yes, there are cliques but that happens everywhere, although ours tend to be more open than I’d like to think others are elsewhere. And we can largely thank Justin Trudeau’s father, Pierre Elliot Trudeau, for tracking Canada down a revolutionary path towards multiculturalism that has resonated to this day.

Canada has its own challenges, yes, but I think because of our own unique nature we take a more civil approach to dealing with issues rather than through mind-numbing violence or destruction of property.

The political atmosphere with Donald Trump and the anti-immigration stance only exacerbates the situation, however, it is fair to point out that democratically-elected governments are largely the result of the electorate’s sentiments, so is Trump truly to blame or does the public need to take a bit of responsibility as well? Yes, there is some valid concern over who is let in to the country, and that’s perfectly acceptable ; each nation has the right to defend itself. But basing these things on prejudice without purpose borders discrimination and should not be tolerated. Places like Syria are experiencing a large swath of violence that unfortunately extends beyond its borders, but to paint each person who flees to find solace elsewhere as a violent extremist is unjust.

When I see dynamics like that, it strikes me in a very recognizable manner that a person’s character is more important than their colour or ethnicity. Beauty is skin-deep, yes, but you have to live with what’s beneath. If you cannot accept that, then you don’t accept humanity for all that it is.

I was fortunate enough to have met incredible people along the way in my life who come from different backgrounds and circumstances. Cathy, Golden Touch Medispa’s founder, was one such person. A remarkable lady who hails from Iran, just by mingling with her these years has enabled me to drop the narrow-mindedness that comes with not being exposed to the rich and flavourful opportunities to meet people that come along with a fulfilling social existence. She has a lovely story and unique perspectives that have helped me open my mind and eyes to a lot of the goings-on that happen in the world in and above what popular culture or mainstream media may have you think.

You are beautiful no matter how you look or where you came from. Always remember that. No one can tell you otherwise.

Find your beautiful.

 

Sean
Sean is chief advisor of branding and operations for Golden Touch Medispa. Read Beyond Beauty weekly as Sean takes us along a path of a unique perspective into the things that most people accept as beauty.

Beyond Beauty – The Depth of Confidence

Beauty is skin deep, but confidence penetrates to the heart.

Sean Mitchell

Sean Mitchell
Advisor, Operations & Branding

Hello everyone!

It’s been a while since I last wrote a post. A lot has happened in my life lately, but that’s for another time.

The purpose of my posts centres around the dynamics of confidence and society’s unfettered obsession with appearance and beauty, largely because the same dynamics affected me as a child right up until three years ago, in 2014, when I announced the end of a depression that lasted for over 25 years of my life with almost near-fatal parameters.

My daughter had her ballet recital early June. She had to do five sessions over a three-day period. For a five-year-old, that’s no easy feat. But she did it nonetheless and I’m extraordinarily proud of her.

During the routine, one thing of note was the smiles seemingly frozen on the faces of the ballet dancers in particular. They’re taught to smile to the audience regardless of personal circumstances, creating a ruse of plausible contentment and confidence on the surface.

We were told halfway through the recital that my daughter was selected to present flowers to one of her teachers, and unbeknownst to us she was also to be given a medal for outstanding potential. Me and the missus were floored but incredibly honoured.

On her last show, the closing ceremony was underway and my daughter went on stage to present the flowers. I waited backstage and paced back and forth like any nervous parent would do, accolades being received notwithstanding.

While I was waiting I saw one of the dancers walk by. She had a smile on her face, but she seemed nervous. It got me thinking. We expect people who perform in public to constantly maintain a happy, smiley demeanour. But underneath it all, are they really?

On the surface she looked lavishly beautiful, broadcasting an air of confidence that only few could ever imagine to have. Yet I got thinking about how her internal sentiments must have been acting. She could have been extraordinarily nervous, or suffering through a well-hidden anxiety attack waiting to happen but kept it concealed pretty well.

What we broadcast on the surface is and can be completely different from what’s underneath. We only need to look at Robin Williams as an example of someone who practices contentment and happiness on their face but does not dare let the internal quagmire reveal itself in any fashion or form. And that’s sad.

A lot of people tend to focus too much on what’s visually beautiful rather than the whole picture. People with confidence will tell you that beauty is only skin deep, but confidence goes straight to the heart.

Beauty aids do help, absolutely, but we have to live with what’s underneath. If you aren’t happy with what you see in the mirror before the mascara or blush is applied, then how can you dare to feel comfortable with knowing you’re essentially displaying a façade of fake beauty?

A person’s true beauty goes beyond what’s on their face. It has to resonate in the heart and work itself outward.

That, my friends, is the best kind of beauty.

à la prochaine!

— Sean

Beauty Unleashed – Show Your True Colours




In light of this past weekend’s Pride event, this week’s Beauty Unleashed is about showing your true colours.

When you’re a hair designer you see a lot of different hair styles, colours and textures. I’ve seen lush and long hair; people wearing their hair in whimsical styles; highlights that didn’t do the hair-wearer any justice; and I’ve seen hair so damaged from incorrect chemical treatments or so much spray and gel that It’s surprising it hasn’t broken off.

In this industry, you see a lot of people whose styles, colours and textures don’t really fit people as well as it ought to. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Everyone has a unique shade. Be willing and proud to show yours.

Everyone has a unique shade. Be willing and proud to show yours.

Each of us is born with hair in a particular shade, and as we get older it tends to change based on several factors. For instance, my business advisor, Sean (author Beyond Beauty here on goldentouchmedispa.com), said that when he was born his hair was completely blonde, full of these bouncy curls that seemed to have a live of their own. But now it’s a dark brown with greying spots. (For the record, I love Sean’s curls. They’re the type that us women would die to have and for him it’s completely natural. How fair is that?)

My job as a hair designer is to help you bring out your true colours via your hair. Like I mentioned above, we are born with a specific colour that we may or may not like. And that’s fine, but it doesn’t mean we should completely do without our natural colours just to spite ourselves or to feel socially accepted. Our hair means something, so let’s make the most of it.

I recall this one lady who came to see me with a severely botched highlighting job she had done at another salon somewhere in Toronto. And I mean botched; the colours weren’t evenly applied,  the shade was awful and to make matters worse, the cut she had done didn’t do her any justice at all, an insult to anyone with any amount of dignity.

I was aghast, imploring her to say she didn’t pay for this monstrosity. Unfortunately she did.  She was appreciative of the fact that I was willing to help rectify her situation.

Given the state of her uneven hair, I had to cut it shorter to achieve an even appearance. This could not be avoided, however it was relatively unnoticeable as even she remarked the shorter locks looked better on her, more than she imagined. I corrected the colours to make it more conducive to what she originally intended. I worked magic on her.

Luckily, she left with a more even—though shorter—cut and highlights in a proper colour that complemented her face and figure. She looked ravishing, her true colours shown forth.

We’re born with our natural colour, so why do some people attempt to completely erase any trace of its existence? There are people who would DIE to have your hair.

Ok, sure, some colours that we’re born with don’t do us any favours, and though it doesn’t mean we have to live with it, we shouldn’t be completely unforgiving to it either. There are ways to amplify the look of your natural colour that complement rather than conceal.

My salon is in Yorkville; there are a LOT of other salons in the area. But I’m quite sure that it’s my special caring touch that encourages people to come see me over the others. I personally like to help people discover and bring their true inner beauty to fruition.

That’s why I named my practice Golden Touch.

How will you let your true colours shine?




Beyond Beauty




What is beauty?

Is it what we see on the surface, or is it what truly lies inside?

That question has been asked for millennia and many are still unsure of the answer. Whatever that is, there’s no doubt that we all strive to be beautiful one way or another.

Some prefer to lather up themselves with umpteen tonnes of make-up to make up for a lack of it naturally, or enhance specific body parts that some deity supposedly forgot to invest in during their creation, while some tend to get by or even excel without it.

It’s a topic that often leads to a lot of discussion about what is considered beautiful—almost like an international panel to determine a clear-cut definition that applies to no one.

Thing is, beauty doesn’t have a resounding, concrete definition. What’s beautiful to one person may be a total turn-off for another; some are beautiful on the surface, some are beautiful in spirit, and some can manage both quite flawlessly.
That’s where Cathy comes in.

I’ve had the pleasure of working with Cathy over the last eight or so years and she never fails to amaze me with how beautiful her spirit and character is. She’s constantly dolled up and smiling regardless of condition.

Cathy is owner of Golden Touch Medispa, based in Toronto’s lavish Yorkville neighbourhood, and comes from a rich background in cosmetology and hair design. Her knack for enhancing beauty naturally is uncanny, unlike those I have ever seen. No, this is not a Dove love-in but rather an individual who finds the best in each and every person no matter their circumstances.

A mother of four, Cathy came to Canada from Iran when she was young and opened a few successful ventures, which she sold off or got out of completely from bad partnership dynamics. When I met her, she was in transition between opportunities. At the time, was working part-time as an independent aesthetician in College Park.

I remember the phone call I got one cold morning: “Sean, do you design websites? I saw your card here.”
I liked her so much I invested in her; my time, expertise, and drive to design many websites that evolved over the years we’ve been working together. Now, that seems rather abrupt to simply jump into something like that with virtually no plan or history other than a rough impression of what she offers. But it’s her practice, her dedication to her work that enticed me to go along for the ride.

She’s helped me in so many ways, mainly with my hair styles. Once I gave Cathy an open canvas on how to design a new hair style for me. My head was a white space. “Go nuts!” I said.

Luckily the fates were on my side. I walked out of there and suddenly, like a quick ethereal zap, people started noticing me. It was like I suddenly phased in to reality and everyone took notice.

She eventually moved out of the College Park location and migrated up to 97 Scollard Street in the lesser-known area of Yorkville. And it’s benefited her; going from an unknown aesthetician to a hair designer cosmetologist who’s sought after by many across the Greater Toronto Area, she’s has helped clients far and wide realize their inner natural beauty through various and compassionate means.

But tooting-my-horn efforts aside, it’s Cathy’s expertise that sets her apart in and above her media presence. Let me explain.

She helped refine my image with stylish hair designs that I never even thought possible with my hair. Now I had fantasized about having some freaky, off-the-wall style that would ultimately cause heads to turn and thus, in turn, make me feel beautiful.

Without going into too much detail, I was afflicted with confidence issues for a good portion of my life and felt like an outlier when it came to the attractiveness side of life. My appointment with Cathy calmed my worried soul and she pulled off a sleek hair design that was far more different than what I was expecting while simultaneously being in line with my deepest desires. People started noticing me when I thought they didn’t before. It had THAT much impact. It pretty much changed my entire look. Just from a simple haircut.

Her work after that established a benchmark on which I base all other hair services I have or will receive should it not be with her for whatever reason, and it did help increase my confidence as I noticed more people “taking notice” of me as I walked around in public or among my friends.

Aside from a God-given talent, the beautiful thing, if I may use that term, is Cathy’s dedication, the spirit and drive to help people find their inner beauty regardless of what those particular goals are. She observes, probes, and listens to whoever she is talking to, letting her personality calmly indicate to the inquiring individual that she’s there to help improve their own beauty with natural means and that everything is going to be okay.

It’s quite impressive to see such a caring, dedicated and motivated practitioner who actually lives up to what she professes. There have been instances where some people have given Cathy a hard time and I think it’s unfair that she’s been treated that way even though she does her best to help.

What’s also interesting is she’s branched out to include a more cosmetic feel to her practice, investing and offering top-notch quality laser services for handling all sorts of body therapy needs. How that came to be is another story altogether (which involves me picking her up and driving to Kitchener where I used my savvy negotiating skills to get a great deal on the equipment and driving back all within the same afternoon).

So what is beauty exactly? Beauty is the richness of character; sometimes it shows wonderfully on the surface; other times it hides and needs help to shine through. Whichever it is for you, know that you are beautiful both inside and out.

And if you’re having trouble discovering it, perhaps Cathy can help you out.

Sean Mitchell, CHRL, is a certified human resources professional and wannabe venture capitalist. Sean is also owner of Blacktalon Enterprise Solutions, loves business and making his clients become the best they can be.

Beauty Beyond is a regular featured blog on goldentouchmedispa.com, presently published weekly.



Beauty Unleashed – Unleash Your Inner God(dess)




Unleash your inner god(dess)

Cathy of Golden Touch Medispa

Cathy is owner and head hair designer and aesthetician at Golden Touch Medispa

Do you ever wish you could be as gorgeous as those celebrities in Hollywood, mimic the look and style of those on the catwalk? Or you dream of being able to get more than a quick glance when out on the town. Or maybe you’re simply looking for a few tips or a quick touch-up so you can be a knockout at your friend’s wedding.

Whatever your reason or purpose, Golden Touch can make all of your beauty dreams come true. Want to know a secret? It’s really quite simple to achieve.

Beauty is a unique thing that has existed since the beginning of human civilization. Wars have been fought over it. Lives have been forever changed upon its discovery and fulfillment. People have gone to great lengths to get it, often times being overwhelmed by it and unable to handle its power, succumbing to the weight of irresponsibility it brings. People spend obscene amounts of money to look beautiful, whether it’s through Botox, plastic surgery or intense make-up all in their pursuit to awaken their confidence and experience the sensation of being desired and appreciated. Such a heated pursuit with incredible rewards obtained from such an endeavour; but, at what cost?

While it’s perfectly acceptable for people to do whatever it takes to look and feel beautiful, what if I told you that the perfect beauty arrangement lies within you right now as you read this?

Shocking, isn’t it?

I started Golden Touch years ago because I felt that there just isn’t enough effort being done by people to find their inner beauty, who then use—or misuse—cosmetic procedures that just don’t fit and whose affects aren’t noticeable until we age and they no longer suit us.

You see this a lot in Hollywood; celebrities loading up on plastic surgery to the point where they are barely recognizable, and when they reach an age milestone their faces resemble the look of a trapped soul frozen in time screaming for help. That’s not an ideal manner to conduct oneself especially if these individuals are, for all intents and purposes, role models to the millions of youth—and some adults—around the world.

We need more efforts to create awareness and support for natural beauty without going to incredulous lengths to get it.

That’s where I am confident I can lend a hand.

At Golden Touch I, and my business partner Sean (who also has a blog on this site, called “Beyond Beauty”), we’re here to make achieving and realizing your beauty goals with advice and services that best work for you. They are:

  • Hair design
  • Aesthetics
  • Laser hair removal (LightSheer)
  • Laser liposuction (non-invasive) – VersaSlim
  • Laser liposuction (non-invasive) – Nlazer
  • Massages
  • Facials
  • Microdermabrasion
  • Peels
  • Beauty products
  • And more!

We all yearn to feel and be beautiful one way or another. You know deep down inside there’s a beauty queen (or king!) waiting to come out and be alive. If you give me a few minutes of your time, I’ll make it come to fruition. Your friends, family and colleagues won’t recognize you once the truly confident you is revealed and walks around like a fine peacock in all its glamour.

Clients might want to make a special connection outside of business too.

Whichever way you look at it, beauty is a factor of human existence and denying it won’t make it any better. Let me delve deep to bring your beauty desires to surface and make them a reality.

My environments are clean, ambient, and completely free from judgement. I welcome you with open arms.

And, if you are still unsure of whether to begin this epic journey into newfound inner beauty, I, as well as Sean, will post flavourful and insightful articles highlighting my own journey and our perspectives offer tips to help stoke your interest and confidence.

Be catwalk ready.

***Cathy is owner of Golden Touch Medispa with a rich history and intriguing stories to tell. Join her each week as she shares these tales and inspiring insight and practical tips to enhance your own beauty naturally. You’ll fall in love with her unique character and, ultimately, yourself.